I understand what you mean... America and Britain were no better a hundred years ago, this is what I'm trying to stress.
China's really quite behind the west, still... the interior is still deeply isolated and poor (and backward).
We apply our modern western standards in judging them... I find myself doing it all the time. But you can't really expect someplace like China to just up and adopt our values overnight. It's a 4000 year old people who's culture is historically slow to accept outsiders.
If we treat China the way we've treated everyone else the west has considered 'backward' it's not going to lead to anything but trouble... the West only just yesterday (by Chinese standards) withdrew from its colonial, imperial period.