As a white person my use of nigger is totally different that a black person using it.
She's not 'right' and neither are they, there can only be one 'right' answer here surely.
As for the dolly that caused all this...I remember them being on jam jars and in shops, and I swear on me kid's life I always saw them as the double of this guy
http://i102.photobucket.com/albums/m104/markbc79/MartinShaw_Pros.jpg
Yes, I did watch that cheesy nonsense as a kid
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I didn't connect the rag dolls with black people at all. That was done for me later on unfortunately.
TBH, one phrase I find more offensive than most others is 'Uncle Tom'. It suggests there are ways us 'whites' expect black people to behave.
Bit like the stick Cond Rice got for using hair straighteners. Bloody shocking I'd say.
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