Of course you're right, and I suppose that if it came down to it, I wouldn't disturb it at all (cos I'm a big softy anyway!)

But what I really meant was that I think the symbolism would be irrelevant once the person has left it anyway, so wouldn't make any difference if it was destroyed or not! They'd know nothing about it - unless you're gonna go and grass me up... ;o) Arf!

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